Well, I wouldn’t call him a moron…
I have a serious bone to pick with this situation. I saw your first post about it this weekend and how you said listing the reasons why you like the person you like crushed your self-confidence, and it honestly sucked to read. I was tempted to say something, but I didn’t because I didn’t think it would last long, and why should ex-boyfriends you haven’t talked to in a while have an opinion about this?
Then you added more posts about it. Each one hurt more and more to read, so I thought I should finally say something because I know you better than this guy. (Disclaimer: Everyone else who ends up reading this should know the following opinions are not caused by jealousy.)
Why should listing the reasons why you like this guy crush your self-confidence? Maybe you should list reasons why you’re a good person, and why anybody would be lucky to have you in their lives? Why are you glorifying this guy at the expense of putting yourself down?
The most bullshit thing I’ve read was, “…he deserves and needs someone who does.” Do you know this guy enough to know what he deserves and needs? Who are you to say what he deserves and needs, anyway? Why are you hiding all the things you could offer that he most likely needs more than someone who has their shit together?
The truth is that you have so much love and warmth to give. You are one of the most thoughtful, loving, and generous person I know, and this guy is lucky enough to have someone like you just be interested in him. It seems like you are more than interested in him, and he doesn’t even see how lucky he is.
And then you have the heart not to call him a moron? I beg to differ because if this guy doesn’t see how amazing you are, if he doesn’t see the things you can give him, if he doesn’t see how lucky he is to have someone like you want to give him so much, if he doesn’t see how much you’re worth to like you back, then yes, he IS a complete moron.
Don’t give what you can offer to someone who doesn’t see your worth. Stop undermining yourself as a person for someone like that because someone like you should know better.
I’m sorry that you have to go through this. You deserve better than someone who can’t appreciate you. I know it’s become really cliche, but it really IS his loss. Not yours. You really have nothing to be sad about, so I hope you feel better about all this soon. You will do so many great things and you’re too amazing of a person to feel sad about a situation like this. Take care, kid. It will get better. I promise. You can feel sad for a while, but don’t spend too much time dwelling on it. Everything is going to be okay. You’re going to be okay.